Wednesday, December 06, 2006

I am VERY Busy

In this teeming city of millions it seems everybody is a floating island, nobody has time for anybody as everybody is very busy. They look busy, act busy, say "I'm busy", walk fast, and talk fast and what not. At my workplace when I talk to my colleagues, they say "It's been a hectic week", "I'm going home late everyday", "I don’t even have time to get up for lunch" and so on.

I know somebody (who works part time) and calls us off an on for some reason or the other and her primary theme of conversation is that how busy she is and how full her social calendar is and how blessed we should feel that she actually found time to call us and inquire about our well being. Another lady who again works on a free lance basis loves to say that her phone is hardly ever free for 12 hours in a day because so many people are trying to reach her. She at one point said that we should not bother calling her on her birthday as the chances of getting through her on her phone would be remote! I know many more people with the same disease.

I prefer to call it a disease because in reality by saying 'I am busy" one creates a moat around one's self by not allowing people to cross over. Even the so called partying set of Mumbai conveniently seeks refuge in their cell phones whenever they feel threatened by invasion of their private spaces. I wonder what makes people falsely project that they are the busiest people on this earth when they are not? Is it low self esteem which makes them hide behind these self created veneers? Or is it that they like to live in a world of their own creation where they are in demand every second? Sometimes I think it’s a cry for help to save themselves from their lonely existence.

In my corporate experiences, I have seen that when most people approach me, they first ask me "Are you busy?" and I always say "No - nothing that cant be done later", though sometimes I do say "Yes I am busy" when I genuinely want to avoid a person! I find it intriguing that over time in our homes and work places, we have become hesitant to cross each others moats - even if the draw bridges have been lowered, we seek permission before we cross.

9 comments:

Shreemoyee said...

I would comment on your post, but..
I am very busy.

Kausum said...

Everyone wants to show they are normal. And being normal in a city like Bombay is to be busy. To be doing activities, working, shopping, partying but being busy so they can always talk on the cellphones because they are on the go and the reason for having cellphones ....

I think its more of hiding that they are not normal, while they are normal.

Btw, I need to go now, coz I am busy .. but havent seen you for a while around in the blogs. Looks like you are busy too.

Anonymous said...

I am absolutely free so I CAN comment!!:-) You are right - what makes it worse is that its not just in Bombay - its all pervading now. Being busy is considered the "in thing". Maybe I should take the hint..:-)

ichatteralot said...

@Shreemoyee: Ha ha ha ...

@Kausum: I'm not exactly busy but I have more to do these days which and one needs a quiet mind to write which is in short supply these days! Agree with what you say..

@Anonymous: I am always free ... sometimes I wonder why! Anyway I feel that relaxed and at ease people can get much more done than 'acting busy' people...

zypsy said...

i won't say they are lonely. people say "i'm busy" when they want to avoid a person! or when they don't want to do something!

Nautilus said...

I've been soooo busy lately that didn't get time to visit your blog!
Anyway, now that i'm completely vela, I'll fill up my time by commenting on this post... ;-)

ichatteralot said...

@Zypsy: Yes thats true as well but one cant always be busy for all people!

@Nautilus: Should I say thank you??? :D

Di said...

very true...i for one believe that u cud be busy for a day but not more than that..everyone has the same share of time each day..and the same amount of things to do (though they may disagree on this one)...i always believe time spent on friends and people who caer is worth more than atleast twice the amount of work that we cud do in that time.. :)

austere said...

:)

rest of the words gulped away- toooh buzzy youh seeah